The urge for another punt is becoming too much to resist

On yet another, relatively short break but feels like an eternity from punting. My last visit to an escort being first week of November. I’ve tried to resist temptation since but after many failed attempts to get the wife interested since (the last time I had any luck at home was in early summer) I just don’t know how much longer I can hold out for. I feel sorry any guy that is stuck in a sexless marriage. It’s growing ever more frustrating that I can’t get anything out of her. I am trying my best but honestly don’t know how any woman can expect a man to stay loyal in sexless relationship.

I'm in the same boat. Treated so bad I've now lost all sexual confidence.

A good post Peebles, you too Sailor. It is of course good to hear of your living hell. Nothing personal, just punting. I haven't been in "a marriage situation" for many years, and sometimes as I get on in years I do wonder about ifs and buts. Any older guy living alone probably does the same. It's easy to look at older married couples and think of companionship and contentment, togetherness etc which an older man living alone doesn't have. What if.....

You provide a welcome reminder of the sexless, frustrated, barren reality that many no doubt face. Often I see an older man walking alongside some hideous old bag of lard who is presumably his wife, and I think, WTF is it like waking up to that every day. But I think there's no doubt a loving bond etc between them and looks don't matter. But maybe in reality she actually does look as ghastly to him as she does to me. I don't know.

When I saw the title of your post I thought, as you've been around here for a while, well why doesn't he just go and see an escort if it's bothering him. What's the drama? Now I understand. I didn't know you were burdened.

I didn't have an outing last weekend, the first I've missed in the past two months when it has become a habit. And no BS I'm having a very good run, the best since COVID. I came on here after surveying and checking out the options for Friday or Saturday. I've narrowed it down to what I believe is a young Thai posting genuine pics and a Brazilian doing the same. I just have to decide. Then again, if I feel up to it I may have both. That's a definite possibility.

I have an outing to FKK Sharks in Darmstadt near Frankfurt booked for March. Four or five days with return visits. I can't wait. Until then I will continue having an outing probably every weekend, unless I can't be bothered for some reason and give it a miss.

I hope you have an outing yourself if you decide to risk it. Wear a disguise or something in case you are recognised entering a strange address. Say you spent the money on gardening tools. FFS watch the unexpected messages on your phone. Hide the scent with petrol or mint or something. Take care you're not followed. Anyway I think you should take the risk and I wish you luck. You deserve a break from your living nightmare, as do you Sailor.

I'm in the same boat as you Mr Peebles. I don't hate my Mrs, in fact she is a good hearted woman whome Iam no longer attracted to due to her weight issue. Our marriage is virtually sexless get nagged at all the time. I told her straight I need sex as am very frustrated. It's been about 6 months. I guess I'm to blame for her loss of appetite given her lack of trust in me around other women.

My recent punts have met my needs to a degree, but want to get away from it (although it does excite me thinking about it). Im in 2 minds right now to move out after my trip abroad and then move on with my life and meet a woman I really like, but time, age and family are holding me back. I just know I'll end up at another sauna somewhere or with an escort before I head off on holiday.



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It’s a strange one Nesslad. Growing being told to find “the one” to fall in love with, spend a lifetime together and go on adventures with…. And for most aspects of it I like my married life. Yeah sure my wife has gone from dress size 8 to 14 since we’ve been together. And as much as I’d love her to get close to her old body shape it doesn’t bother me all that much though as we all age and bodies change as is life. But never did I think that sex would all but stop whilst in my early thirties! I was hoping the dry spell would maybe last a couple of years but it’s been going on for 7 years now and just don’t see it getting better anytime soon. I never thought I would ever be seeing escorts and don’t particularly like the lying and sneaking around and with me having quite a messy job, I can’t simply make a diversion on the way home from work and just say I got stuck in traffic. And when at home, she loads my schedule up so much with shopping, walking dogs, household chores, driving her all over the country to visit her friends because she can’t drive. I’ve giving up football and golf to make time for her. So no longer have a social life. I must pay 90% of the bills, I give all the foot massages, back massages and back scratching and im more than happy doing all of this but all I require is a little bit of attention once or twice a month. But she doesn’t seem to be interested in the slightest. Just a hand job wouldn’t go a miss. I can’t bring myself to have it out with her and say I’m happy in a sexless marriage as I then feel she will only be doing it to stop me from walking out.

wow guys - sorry to hear about your respective situations. You'll know you're not the only ones to be in these long-term relationship issues - most people are or have suffered them but won't / can't talk about them.

I'm single (at the moment, thank god, until I forget the past!) and won't give up my golf obsession again for any woman again! Last time I checked golf couldn't stop me playing. Bottom line you have to find something to meet your needs and keep you sane and if people can't understand then screw them (metaphorically)!

Good luck.

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Everyone has different circumstances. We are not here to judge.

Chloe x

Sucks, but think this mirrors pretty much what 75% of Men that have been married for X amount of years go through. Working in a 'blokesy' environment you hear it all the time. Men who have a wholesome sexual life are very much in the minority.

I'm sure we'd all want a meaningful sexual relationship with our Wives, than to be be involved in the industry. But in a turnaround of fortune, if I ever found myself single I would punt exclusively. Too old for the drama of relationships!

Before I was married I always wondered why people would risk everything on an affair, now I get it.

Same boat exactly here. The urge is growing by the day. I've not had a punt since before Covid and now I'm checking escort sites daily. Looking forward to it to be honest. I'm thinking either Thai or Brazilian.

I have to say, my situation is rather the reverse. I do have a regular partner with whom I've had a decent sex life but that has tailed off over the past year for very understandable reasons on her part. However, as I've been a frequent punter for years now that 'tailing off' hasn't bothered me at all. However, I do think I should reduce my punting somewhat as I realise, in part, it's being done out of habit. Last year I saw 35 different girls and some of them more than once so that's almost a punt a week. This January I've already seen 6 girls. I mean, all good fun but it is a bit habitual. I've come to regard punting as a great hobby, it certainly ticks all the hobby boxes i.e. it's expensive, time consuming, active and involving! I certainly will keep doing it but maybe I won't continue to be as active as I was last year. For anyone anxious about trying it for the first time or getting back into it, hell, just go for it. It really is a fun, surprisingly safe and easy hobby. I've always found it so anyway.

So true, two weeks is about my limit!

Whoever said sex addiction was not real! I know I could not give up prostitutes even if I tried. Fortunately, I don't have any need to, so as as long as I can afford it, I have every intention of sticking with this amazing hobby for as long as possible, hopefully I have a good few years in me yet.

Well I did manage to have a punt at the beginning of this month. Independent, twenty something, stunning, blonde, fit as fuck Brazilian on adultwork. Had a rare day where I was working by myself for a couple days and so started the days earlier and worked through lunch breaks so I could sneak away during work hours… I am trying to cut down punting to no more than once a month though already feeling the urge for my next punt.

Just had a punt last weekend in Edinburgh. Nice English girl (indie). Chatty and easy going. Fantastic sex. Been to a few saunas, but don't like walking into the unknown and then having to pick someone.

Anyway, I'm a once every 2 months guy. I like the build up to a punt. Going for a pint beforehand and then the excitement of walking through that door into the arms of a cracking looking babe.

It’s bizarre how the sex life gradually stops in marriage, CIM/Swallow stopped early, OK as I get older I take longer to repeat. Oral on me declined, while she won’t let me give oral other than a quick lick, at one stage I would give her huge juicy organisms.

Now no kissing or foreplay, just straight on to fu*cking, then as I cum she is reaching for a tissue for the mess.

It makes fun with an escort even with a condom appealing!

I certainly wouldn't say I'm addicted to sex but I've realised that punting has 3 more aspects of hobbyism than I listed above. These are the collector mentality I.e. the wish to notch up different nationalities etc, the need to share ones interest, hence posting on these forums about what are otherwise very secret activities and the tendency to get a bit obsessive. The last is why I've decided to try and limit my encounters to one a month as my once a week was getting a bit, well, obsessive. I did leave it a month from the end of January to my next encounter when I saw a truly cute and sexy Thai girl. It was a fab meet up and, to be honest, all the more memorable for leaving that one month gap. Admittedly, I only have to look on AW and see some new, tempting profiles for that 'once a month' thing to falter but, hell, I'll see how it goes. Once a fortnight would do!!

I'm once a week now. The cost and the experience is factored in, Friday or Saturday, an outing is guaranteed. I've sometimes had two recently, but not making a habit of that as it seems excessive and a bit over indulgent and unnecessary. One should be enough. I enjoy looking at options in the days beforehand. It totally transforms what might otherwise be a dullish day. And weekly routine or not, I find no matter how regularly you go to see a different escort, it never in any way lessens the excitement, expectation and "edge".



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I feel your frustration, there doesn’t seem to be a cheap answer. I can’t afford to pay £50 when I want to have my itch scratched and I don’t know how to meet guys who just want a bit of casual fun. Help would be appreciated.

Interesting to see it’s not just the men that are affected by this. I wouldn’t know what the answer is for you Linda. Ideally I would rather not have to stump up £100+ every time I want anything either. Though I do feel for you!
It’s been a while since my last punt and the urge is building once again. Though due to changing circumstances at home it has become harder than ever to find the time to punt which in turn makes a sexless relationship even harder to be in especially now knowing there is something else out there. I’ve been telling myself for years that the wife has her reasons for not wanting sex and that one day things will resolve and one of those being that since I’ve known her she has always wanted kids though she couldn’t have any of her own. Hence why we over the years got 3 dogs to fill the void. I could never care less about having kids personally though I’ve gone along with if it makes her happy, I’m happy. After a lengthy adoption process, as of 6/7 months ago we finally adopted. I’ve been hoping for the last couple of years of seeing escorting that once this happens, the wife would be fulfilled and be back to having some bedroom action. Or at the very least, I wouldn’t be as interested as would be too distracted by a child. How wrong I was! If anything the extra chores and stress makes me want it more. And 5 months in and still no bedroom action, I finally broke and confronted her on this as I feeling more and frustrated and depressed at home. I’ve given her everything she wants, I never particularly wanted the second and third dogs. I pay ever household bill. I’ve stopped all my hobbies to be there for all her needs, In over 10 years together, I’ve never seen her bank account. I get up at 5:00 in the morning to walk and feed dogs before work, spend 10+ hours at work to come home to having a child shoved on me as the wife is no knackered and wants her deserved rest, I do the dinner, bath, bedtime routine and once the child is finally asleep I can finally walk the dogs for their evening walk, jump in the shower and collapse! Rinse and repeat this 5 times a week and come the weekend I’m on daddy duty for the entire weekend whilst the wife gets to go for massages, coffee meets with friends ect..
Don’t get me wrong, even though I never wanted a child, I now adore the kid and will do all I can to give the kid the best life possible! But fuck me do I need sex! A blow job, hand job… Anything!! As I was saying, last month I finally had it out with her, and her response was that it’s not me it’s her and that I should be more understanding as to how upset she is that she can’t please her man… what utter bullshit! So since this the only thing that has changed is that I’ve noticed she no longer asks for foot massage or back scratch, I can only presume it is because she knows if she asks, she has to repay the favour.
I can’t help but feel my sole purpose is to provide for her and nothing else.
And what I don’t get most of all is that before marriage, I never once had to ask for any sex, she would go down on me twice a month without fuss… it is literally once a woman knows she has you locked in, she can stop giving out?

These situations do seem to be depressingly common. I've known several guys over the years who, for one reason or another, have ended up in sexless relationships and who do nothing about it due to ignorance of, nervousness about or lack of funds to indulge in the punting scene. It strikes me that there is a hell of a lot of celibacy out there amongst men and women of all ages. I had many dry years in my twenties due to a combination of shyness around girls, a fussiness that led me to reject the offers I did get and the lack of the current wonderful and wonderfully accessible punting scene. Anyhow I did finally end up in a long term relationship with plenty of great sex that kept me happy for years but, for all that, I am so glad that I got into this punting lark 15 or so years ago as the quality and variety of sexual experiences I've had is beyond anything most men out there would ever get through 'dating'. I'll continue with this great hobby (and my once a month thing is already faltering) 'cos life really is too short not to. I mean, why should what is one of the greatest pleasures in life be so bloody rationed as it clearly is in a lot of lives. Sod that for a game of soldiers. Not for this guy!

It is crazy just how common these things are in long term relationships. I used to think that whenever a couple split up due to the man cheating, it’s always because the man has got bored/no longer attracted of his partner. Or just a cunt but I now know a few older guys that have split with long term relationships/marriages due to no sex. I’ve started to see a lot of videos on this subject popping up on social media a lot recently. Whether it’s the “as soon as the kids go to bed the husband wants it” or one in particular that stood out for me was this bud of a guy getting into bed with his wife, who was sat up texting on her phone, he leans over to suggest se and she makes an excuse as why she doesn’t want so he then rolls over in a tantrum to go to sleep. His conscious then appears where he proceeds to argue with his conscious about how his wife never wants sex anymore but he’s then told how he needs to be more understanding and in time she will want it again… And what’s interesting about these videos are when you read through the comment section of the amount of men that are in this exact situation.
I’m someone who thinks women should want sex every day or even every week but how anyone expects their partner to stay loyal on less than once a month is beyond me!
I can never understand how a woman’s body works and if she simply isn’t in the mood, there’s nothing I can do other than be understanding but I do know that if I don’t at least have a wank once every 48 hours, I’m ready to explode! But even then there is only so much wanking I can do before that’s not enough.

MrPeebles,

"I feel sorry any guy that is stuck in a sexless marriage. It’s growing ever more frustrating that I can’t get anything out of her. I am trying my best but honestly don’t know how any woman can expect a man to stay loyal in sexless relationship."

Do you think it is always a man stuck in a sex less marriage? You don't actually state why you think your wife is rarely interested in sex with you. Have you let yourself go to seed? Are your mattress routines predictably staid? Or, is it maybe that your wife is playing away? With all due respect, just asking.

Anyway - what is the point in denying yourself a turn with an escort?



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